Absolutely drink a lot of water. One general starting point I read awhile back, focusing on people predisposed to kidney stones, was to divide your weight by 2, and drink that amount in ounces every day. If you exercise, it recommended 1 liter/hour, and that didn’t count towards your daily water needs.

Also, along with cranberry juice, add some lemon juice to the water at least once per day. This will also help with breaking up stones and keeping them from forming. You can keep the juice in an ice tray in the freezer to make it a bit more handy. The bottled lemon juice is terrible compared to fresh, at least in the US.

Started with playing MUDs in the university computer lab. Started on Windows 3.11. Got a Mindspring dial-up account while in college, and discovered IRC not long after. Wound up working for an ISP (InfiNet) for awhile in the late 90s.

Yeah, nfs v2 3 or 4 can make a difference. I don’t know that many use v2 anymore. If you’re using the current release in your distribution and didn’t specify a specific version, I would guess you’re using v4.

They’re all just dumb consumer switches. Nothing managed… yet.

I’ve looked into NFS multiple times. I work in HPC implementation and believe me I know about SMB/CIFS performance (or lack thereof!)! I just haven’t had the time to figure out ID mapping. What NFS version do you use, and how do you handle file ownership on the shares? I suppose it’s all read-only, so that would make it a bit easier?

This sounds pretty great, TBH. I think I’m probably tied to Synology for the foreseeable future with my parents’ and my NAS being each others off site backup. I know there are other ways to do it, but the investments are already made on both ends. Plus, they’re retired, so the 1522 with 18TB drives wasn’t a small expense for them!

Aside from looking at the current activity on the server web page, where might I look to see if this is true?

Agreed! The library is populated by my parents and me. I’d have to look again, but i think it’s around 12TB.

Everything’s wired. Router is a TP-Link BE63, 2 APs w/ wired backhaul. Shield is on the same switch as the synology. STBs are throughout the house, but generally max 3-hops to the Shield/Synology. All Netgear bluebox 1Gb dumbswitches. At some point in the near future, I plan on getting this stuff to a central switch, so everything is a leaf switch away from it.

ETA: if I’m watching something, the network is generally pretty quiet. I have most data-intensive things (downloads, backups, off-site replications) set to happen in the wee-hours.

Got it: qbit == qbittorrent. I’ve thought about getting the remaining docker containers off of the Synology. I may look into that this weekend.

The network testing I’ve done (iperf and file transfers) hasn’t revealed any issues. I’m seeing consistent 1Gb speeds. I could try some wireshark monitoring, I guess.

limit qbit upload speed

Not sure what you’re referring to here.

I see no other issues from the network. The thing that “changed” is me trying to watch 4k stuff on my plex server. Up until recently, I didn’t bother with 4k. No real reason for trying it now, TBH. I’ve never felt that 4k was necessary for home viewing on anything smaller than a 100” screen (my largest if 75”).

I’ve updated the OP to answer this. I think serving the media from the spinning disk is the heart of the problem.

I have thought of that… Most of the daily driver systems in the house are Macs, so it would probably work out pretty well.

It’s a fresh wound, and those hurt until they heal. You need to give yourself time. This will sound sexist, but if you were a guy, I’d say you need a good bartender. Not saying the same wouldn’t work for a woman, but being a single woman in a bar kind of opens you up to the kind of attention it sounds like you don’t need, or want, any more of. Still, in lieu of a good friend, just having someone who can hear you vent your pain can be healthy (hence my recommendation for a good bartender - when I was being a detached listener was considered part of the job).

When you’re not venting/working through the pain, try to work on you. Work towards liking/loving yourself.

Was talking about this a few weeks ago. Then we spent a week on the Gulf coast of TX, and the rental car collected a pretty good number of bugs. Not as much as when I was younger, but more than I remember seeing in a long time.

Was going to say the same thing. Learning languages and doing puzzles are great ways to build and maintain mental acuity as you age. I have the puzzle part down, need to get off my butt and learn some new languages!

Well I believe in the soul…

Oh man! Erin Grey in Buck Rogers… Still has an effect!