VR Chat two days a week, Horizon three days a week, Resonite one day a week. It’s a slightly different crowd between the platforms with some overlap. We play Walkabout Mini Golf once a month, too.

Yep! They were a godsend in the first two weeks. I’ve also been going to AA meetings in VR.

Alcohol, but I’m 53 days sober

Outside of work I can probably deep focus for 1 to 2 hours per day. Working a full-time job and taking care of a home is simply too exhausting for me to focus longer than that.

I do want to caution that hobbies and passions shouldn’t make you feel rundown. It’s great to have a goal, but make sure you’re taking care of yourself and having fun along the way.

I gave up in the first episode when a pair of cops drew their firearms, and the one said to the other “safeties off”. And the other cop just brushes the slide release because he was holding a Glock, which famously does not have a safety. I just couldn’t take it seriously after that.

Fuck it, UDP all the way. Who cares if the data actually arrives?

In my state you get a CCW just by walking into the courthouse, no classes needed, so I’m not sure how it works elsewhere.

I changed my first name, and if I ever get married I’d take my partner’s last name. I’ve considered just changing my last name by myself but I would have no idea what name to pick. Ultimately I carry their name, but I’m not part of their family.

Just in case, if you’re unfamiliar with firearms most community colleges offer firearm safety courses for cheap or free.

You either work your way through life or you leech off of others. Those are the options. There are kids who grew up in war zones, sleeping through air raids and watching those around them die. They still work. There are kids who were in and out of foster care, kids who watched their parents OD, kids who were SA’d every night, kids who slept on the street. Few people have had the ideal childhood you’re describing. Those people still work. They get into therapy. They make something of their life.

Quit making excuses for your laziness. Get a job.

That’s your survival instinct doing what it’s supposed to do. Don’t let a stranger into your home, don’t go into a stranger’s home. That’s just asking to be a victim.

I’m on the top floor of a poorly-insulated midrise, and summers are absolutely miserable. I have a window AC in the bedroom, otherwise it’s all ceiling fans and ice packs. I bought a few “pillow insert cooling pads” (basically a Chillow) and just put them on my neck or in my shirt during the day. Frozen water bottles also help.

This is the bad place.

Not gonna lie, I just map a network share and copy and paste through the gui.

Exactly this. I would be ecstatic if my employer paid for my cert tests. I pay for them myself and study on my own time, then leverage them during annual reviews to show why I deserve promotions and raises.

For context, I went from homeless to six figures because of this kind of hustle. If you want to just tread water then do so, otherwise you need to put in the work on your own time.

This sounds like BS but is completely true. My mother once locked me in the attic for several months while my father was out of town. I was around 15 years old. There was a bedroom and bathroom, but no food. I survived on an unusually large container of Chichis Hot Salsa that my dad had gotten me for my birthday (it was my favorite snack) and a bottle of cranberry juice. I refilled the juice bottle with water from the sink. I went from ~160 lbs to under 100bs. Near the end I began experiencing seizures.

I will never forget the first meal I had when my dad got back into town. It was a sandwich from a pizza place, and I can still taste it clearly. It was heavenly.

Yinz is all you need.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yinz

Literally my ex rn. He bled me dry financially and now has to be a big boy and pay his own bills for once. 😂

I work in IT. My favorite part is focusing on a difficult problem that no one else can solve, and fixing it. My nickname at work is “the tank” because they can point me at any issue and I’ll fix it. I’ll also toss in the paycheck. I had a recruiter tell me 2 years ago that my skill set isn’t even worth $65k and now I’m making more than double that.

My least favorite part is the occasional late nights. Worked a 20 hour shift the other day for a particularly difficult major issue. This happens maybe twice a year. I’m at an age where it takes a toll.