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  • Absolutely, but I think you misunderstood me…

    Let’s pretend for a moment Cosby is not a rapist; why do anyone infer that, because his comedy was good, he would be a good role model or have savvy life advice to give or know about politics, etc?

    I completely agree with you that it’s is almost impossible to enjoy whatever celebrities do (art, sports, etc) if they are horrible people. however, that line is subjective. Many would still like Cosby if we had found out he does not donate to charity or even if he is an absent dad or if he were a terrible driver… obviously the rapist thing goes too far



  • I think the devil is in the details…

    I have a couple who were close friends, they separated and initially we tried hard to support him as it seem he would have continued the marriage but she was the one moving away from it. Our thought process at the time was “she has something to look forward to, he seems to feel left behind”

    We did not treat her badly or anything but did basically cater to his every need, providing as much support as we could.

    Then, once the initial shock was over, he started attacking her in every possible way. And on top of that, he started shunning our every invite under the pretext “he didn’t want to accidentally run into her” which was complete BS as we did not regularly hung out with her.

    Finally, she was so broke after years of court battles that she opened a go fund me campaign and we donated some money. Well well well, this friend who had all but shunned us suddenly calls me raging that I am helping her and by doing so undermining his righteous effort to take vengeance on her.

    All of this to reiterate that the devil is in the details… were these friends actual friends of yours before the divorce? did you concern yourself with their needs back then? have you been an asshole to them before, during or after the divorce? There is a real chance these were not great people to begin with, but I find it hard to believe that all your true friends decided to just ghost you for no reason whatsoever









  • Totally fair question.

    Basically, I don’t call shots in my organization, I’m a worker bee (best I could call myself is a "specialist worker bee hehehe) I can only work on what is assigned to me and our people are strict on that. Sometimes I get called into meetings as a technical advisor just to let people know if what they are dreaming sounds feasible but even those, if they start to take off, my bosses intervene and demand a project is actually created and put through the paces before it can be assigned to someone.

    With that in mind, if I deem a project, task, inquire BS and do not work on it but I am wrong, the interested party (usually my boss) would come back to me to get status updates, ETAs, etc. Therefore, if I deem a project BS and it is not, I would eventually get in trouble.

    What usually happens is that my boss would come and instead of asking about the status on the BS project, they would tell me to hold on or provide me new specs which may not be BS or simply to tell me the project sponsors dropped it.


  • I have an impeccable nose for work BS.

    When a new initiative or proposal or project or just a simple inquiry comes my way, I seem to have a really good instinct as to how feasible/likely this project will come to fruition. BS projects get tossed into a corner, Non-BS projects get attention.

    99.9% of the time, the BS projects are cancelled or get completely rectified into non-BS projects before I had to waste a single calorie on them

    90% of the time, the non-BS projects are actually developed or, if cancelled, it’s due to forces outside of our control

    The consequence of this “power” is that I am rarely busy since I don’t waste time on the BS and I get solid work done as I can move the time to the non-BS stuff… 23 years into my career I have never been late for a delivery or caught with no progress on a request