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Cake day: June 10th, 2023

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  • Humanity is not as refined as people pretend they are. At the end of the day, a large majority of what we do is directly or indirectly about getting laid.

    Men workout to make themselves more attractive. They take jobs that pay well to make themselves more attractive, they go to schools to get better jobs to make themselves more attractive.

    Women spend time on fitness, makeup, fashion, and education to try to find a better partner.

    It’s not all about sex, but a lot of it is. It’s biologically wired into us so we reproduce.











  • It’s not about that one acquaintance, it’s about the time allocation for friends. If someone isn’t going to be able to handle my kids, I’m not going to be able to spend enough time with them to make spending time with them valuable to both of us.

    I don’t get someone to cover my kids every week, it’s going to only happen maybe once a month, so I’m going to use that valuable time to invest in the people I’m maintaining closer friendships with.

    Having 20 friends you see rarely doesn’t make you happier than having 4 friends you see regularly. If you’re single, you can have 20 friends that you see regularly, but that’s almost impossible as a parent with multiple kids.






  • If you don’t want to meet her with the kids, there’s little point in meeting her at all. You aren’t going to be hanging out regularly because she will have kids that need to be tended, so why push.

    As a parent, we only hang out with other parents at this point, and generally only those that we have developed a relationship with via kids activities (school, sports, etc) because it’s much easier to maintain that relationship when you see them 2-3 times a week for <insert sport> here, or can schedule a lunch/dinner before or after the mutual <insert kids event> here that you know you will both be attending.