Other than niche communities, I do not see any value in browsing reddit. The content quality is simply too low and there’s little room for human discussion. There’s more than enough content here. Sure there are some downsides, especially hate towards women is quite intense and worryingly casual, but 1) those types of discussions are not that common and I find enough strength to let it go 2) reddit isn’t that much better on that front

Wouldn’t irradiation also affect the good bacteria? Like would one still be able to ferment it?

wow thanks! I haven’t been able to use LibreOffice as it is hands down one of the ugliest pieces of software I’ve looked at, and despite retrying for years, I genuinely could not tolerate it. OnlyOffice looks so great!

I fundamentally disagree with your premise. Being caring, vulnerable, gentle is in no way incompatible with being manly. All require a lot of courage, strength, and intelligence. I do not think that manliness should be defined by its most toxic representatives.

I also heard an interesting take on this: we technically do not have a definition of what “manliness” means, as currently society is built around hating and oppressing women. Boys are told “don’t be a girl”, pretty much - don’t cry, don’t be ‘emotional’, don’t compromise, etc.

I think you should be grateful that you weren’t indoctrinated into being an abuser and instead managed to become a “real man”.

If you have trouble breaking the friendship barrier, consider getting in touch and expressing your romantic side more, because the qualities you describe are super attractive