It’s not 2017-18 social media, friend. It’s just late state capitalism.

And the lion’s share of it can be traced to increasing real estate and rent prices.

I use noscript and VERY MUCH do not allow as much stuff as possible, by default, and don’t allow anything if I don’t want to or feel like it. I have been doing so since forever because of literal constant bullshit.

Can be agender, can be a gender.

Fuck dudes, hanging with the dudes, “… Duude…”, “sex with dudes”

Same with bro or man. Also, progressively, defaults shouldn’t be masculine and people shouldn’t push that narrative.

Like, “I like having sex with multiple dudes at the same time”, but, also, my gf is not a dude, dude.

But ALSO to complicate things further, sometimes chicks ARE dudes or bros just because they want to be and that’s okay. And the more you think about that sentence the more your brain will hurt.

I dunno. Just… Don’t be a dickhead and respect people, and it’s probably fine. “Gotta know the rules before you break the rules.”

Is that the one with the nerdy kid that’s like “I’m gonna need hot pockets” or whatever?

The buff one? I thought she was hot until I found out. Was very sad.

Awww maaaaaannnn… Tsk really? That sucks.

Edit, from Wikipedia:

As part of WWE’s non-partisan “Smackdown Your Vote” campaign aiming to encourage young people to vote,[405] Johnson had a speaking role at the 2000 Republican National Convention[406] and attended the 2000 Democratic National Convention less than two weeks later.[407]

Johnson voted for Barack Obama in 2008 and 2012,[276] but did not vote in 2016,[408] and was an independent voter as of 2017.[409] He endorsed Joe Biden in 2020,[410] but told Fox News in an April 2024 interview that he regretted the decision due to it causing “division” and refused to endorse anyone in 2024.[411]

Imo not good, but definitely nuanced and probably not great. I didn’t see the interview though so I don’t know.

Aww it’s so cute!

Something something kill or be killed

Pragmatism and idealism are almost always opposites. But also, what you might see as them being idealistic, might be their only option, pragmatically, or outright a sense of duty to society.

The world is also changing, and while career is likely a choice, gender and a sense of self is not. So I’m not sure exactly what you meant, but I feel the need to point that out. Because if you mean what I hope you don’t, it shows a level of ignorance and lack of empathy of other people’s experiences and perspectives that is harmful. And no parent wants to be harmful to their child, right? Unless that parent is stubborn and controlling and thinks their way is the best or only way. Remember your humility, remember your place, remember your existence as just one person with a responsibility and trying to give your best to your child. Part of that responsibility is giving advice, but giving bad advice or non-updated advice can be extremely harmful and a waste of others’ energy and can cost you entire relationships. I don’t talk to my dad very much for this very reason, as his experience of the world and how it works for him (and therefore everyone else) are set, and seem to be in stone, and a significant source of judgement.

Part of compassion for another is to actually do the work to understand what they’re going through. Just hoping you do and accepting you don’t, isn’t good enough. I’m really sorry to say. That’s “thoughts and prayers” level bullshit. It sounds like they’re going through life on hard mode and could really use someone in their corner who really understands their problems, not a parent who peaches and expects appreciation in return. In this new world, ignorant love isn’t enough, that’s just lazy, entitled, disrespectful, manipulative, and effectively cold.

And for the record, yes I’m absolutely projecting from my own experiences, but I do also know many other trans/queer people and how the dynamic between them and their parents work, constantly study and examine psychology and philosophy, and entirely believe that any kid with a more privileged parent needs maximal support of that parent. And unless your kid has already given up entirely on you (and probably so even then), you hold a lot more power than you may ever know, to be either used for support or disappointment.

And going off your statements of “i wish they could thrive like I have” and “but they’re going at it on hard mode”, I suspect you may have more that you could give to alleviate that hard mode. Maybe don’t think of it as a mode, but rather just who they are and the inherent difficulties of their existence in the world?

I don’t know you or your situation, especially from a single comment response. So I do also want to point out that this isn’t that personal, and is very much my general stance. But at least take it as a genuine perspective of a trans person in her 30s, with middlingly supportive, conservative parents, who wishes they could be more receptive. Because I’m tired of playing life on hard mode with my four year degree in software engineering, a two year degree in audio production, a journeyman level trade, management experience, and unable to even try to get a job anymore because I’m too burnt out.

Nah, this is super common and well known in trans communities. We get pushed out of tons of spaces just for existing. Lots of dating apps and stuff will just ban you and give wrong reasons or lies, and even if you get the ban reversed, it just happens again, but that time it’ll be perma for avoiding bans or using alternate accounts or something wild.

The blind hate by people is real. People think we complain a lot, and we kind’ve do, but almost always for good reason. Being treated shitty by stupid people everywhere sucks. It’s more than just frustrating, it’s actively oppressive and life changing in constant negative ways. It’s literally the opposite of privilege. Like just imagine having not just low, but negative luck in an RPG.

My dad once said to me “just tone it down” when trying to be supportive of my transition. Like… What the actual f does that even mean? I’m not super fem in public, I just want to mind my own business, for the most part, and be me and hang out with friends and drink coffee and bubble tea and try to get my mind off the burning down of my country. I responded to my dad “what? You want me to tone down being a woman?” And he couldn’t really respond to that because I’m pretty sure he thinks being trans is like waving flags and being a rainbow covered, makeup wearing transvestite queer man in drag. Which is… Deeply, deeply disheartening and frustrating. And before you think “oh just explain to him”, I have, repeatedly - he’s a moderate maga, the moderate flaming-ignoramus type that says he only cares about the economy and is totally unaware, or even belligerently defensive of his social unawareness and privileges of being a middle class, white, decent looking, tall, physically able, boomer cishet man.

Anyway, non-foss social media and stuff are all fucked up, and the vast majority of people are also too ignorant or dumb and stubborn to consider that which is anything past their immediate purview. We just don’t talk about it since we’re also told to shut up by most people. I guess that’s just part of being an oppressed minority (internally screaming).

By the above link, it looks like only 69x

I clicked it. 7mill usd it looks like

Did you buy it because it says it’s American?

No i kid, i kid.

But seriously, is that an espresso machine or filter coffee brewer? I see a portafilter but also a giant carafe like for filter coffee. You should submit that to James Hoffman on YouTube and see if he makes a video about it. Also how big is it?

And it slowly poisons you!

How much was it?

I believe you. It’s okay. It isn’t worth it. 🫂

Yeah. Because the usa is now ran by goddamn fucking Nazis

“person”

I’m like a dozen years older than you, and still have this conversation with my parents about jobs. They want me to cold call people and stalk them and stuff. Really wild stuff.

Your parents are wrong in basically every way. Except, yeah, you should be capable of cold approaching anybody. Not to sexually harass them, but for normal things like, “excuse me have you seen a grey glasses case around here?”

Your parents are not out of touch entirely, as this is a culture thing. Largely a generational one, but still, an existing culture. I personally do not believe it good, but I’m also somewhat like you, except 3,000% queer, poly, and engaged. Sometimes I wish guys would just show up and shoot their shots. Be respectful and accept defeat, but still shoot them. Years ago (when I was about 25), I used to work sort of near a bar and this random dude from a bar somehow made his way to me, working, which was, again, fairly far away by foot. And he REALLY wanted to take me home, putting on all the charm and offers. Which was flattering and all, but I wasn’t interested and was forced to steadily increase my level of rejections, plus I was still working. My really cool boss apparently overhead and saw a bit of it, and after the guy finally left (honestly like 30 minutes of him trying), we talked a bit about it and had a good laugh. The guy really just couldn’t take a hint. Luckily though, he was a little guy and where I worked was very open and very well lit and so there was no threat.

I think that there’s a time and place for everything. That you need to be comfortable in being yourself, and have your own drive and reasons for the things you do. Your parents ARE trying to help you, but often exacerbate their kids by pushing too hard or not putting ANY effort to learn or meet their kids even halfway.

And then you have to take into account that, yeah, people really ARE all different. I know girls who wouldn’t want to be cold approached at all, for any reason. I know guys that way, too.

But I also know people that wish they’d be swept off their feet by a price charming or hulk or something. Honestly, I’m kinda that way, but with the duality that as much as I fantasize the forceful, having it be by somebody I don’t accept is terrifying and horrifying. And that’s not on any one specific thing - people are weird and have all their own unique, weird, internal, intuitive flags and needs. Be it a political alignment, a philosophy, an interest, an appreciation, an open mind, wanderlust, a sexual dynamic, a certain look, a certain feature, a familiarity, an unfamiliarity, for them to be monog or poly, a smell, certain kinds of armpits, tabs vs spaces, etc, whatever.

We are all different, is my point.

Different strokes for different folks, I guess. And you, as it seems, are not a seeker type. So, you should focus on what you want in a partner and who you are and want to be. You can listen to your parents a little, but realize that, they, too, besides from being your parents, are just some random ass people with some opinions they’ve formed by their own unique vision, through their own unique bodies and personalities - what works/worked for them may ONLY work for them, and that’s fine. It doesn’t make it better or worse than what works for you. I say, try it, at least once, and be prepared to apologize, and then learn from it. You’re only young once.

The key is to be respectful.

Also, have you tried… 🫴 femboys? ;)

Or impacted earwax.