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  • Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.worldtoSelfhosted@lemmy.world•Is selfhosting your Girlfriend a good idea? 😂English
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    8 months ago

    This makes me feel old. I came from a time when schools didn’t have public shootings, and so bullying was more accepted. I CANNOT imagine for the life of me, even if it had been possible on Windows 95, anyone willingly sharing the fact that they do this.

    If ANYONE in 6th grade showed off something this pathetic, they would be on the ground clutching their gut, which had just been punched so hard that they are struggling to breathe.

    The end result is that people understood common sense that it’s not admirable to be pathetic and weak. So people would show off themselves getting better and stronger.

    I feel like all that bullying 30 years ago made a lot of kids better for it, because it forced them to at least ATTEMPT to stand up to me. Even if I laid them out in the end, they learned not to be a loser.

    And now, we’ve had decades of not encouraging bullys. THIS is the end result. THIS is what these insecure cowards turn into.

    Now I’ve never seen OP, but I’m willing to bet he COULD be going out and getting pussy for real. It’s not hard. I am not a good looking guy. I’m not rich. I don’t have a sports car. I don’t have a mansion. What I do have is a confidence in myself instilled into me at a young age that I can do it. Where “it” is an interchangable variable that applies to most things.

    You know how I got that confidence? By being a fat pathetic loser 8 year old who got bullied. Until I hauled off and just decked my bully. Who was bigger than me. You get a reputation as the kid who knocked out the kid 2 grades above him. Then you start believing in yourself. You start pushing your own limits. You start kicking your own ass. You toughen up. You take on the world, and win. And women see that confidence. The VAST majority of women are attracted to a man who knows he can do it.

    You know how I got my first girlfriend? I called the girl I had a crush on. Straight up asked her out.

    She said no. I’m not her type. Fair enough. Because if a woman says no, there’s no sense in insisting, or getting mad.

    So I called the other girl I had been talking to. I said “You wanna go out?” And she said yes. We dated for 4 years until I learned she was a narcassistic psychopath who trapped our cats in the closet all day while I was at work, after dropping them in freezing cold water. I was not ok with that. You hurt animals, and you’re a damn monster. BUT! It was a relationship that failed not because I was weak and keeled over. It was because I happened to choose the wrong girl based on information I didn’t have. It happens. Not every person on this planet is a good person. Her parents failed her in showing what empathy is, and how to be a strong woman who can handle life. So, that was a dud, but life moves on.

    Now rewind that story. Imagine I just stayed in my moms basement, and ate cheetos, and tried playing video games all day in a dark room crying that woman wants me. Do you think I’d EVER get a girl? Her or otherwise? Fuck no! If that version of me existed, afraid to be bold, afraid to take life by the balls, I’d be some lonely dweeb 40 year old virgin without the humor of Steve Carell.

    So to OP, I’ll say this. I see life has failed you in a spectacular way. You should have been beaten as a kid by other kids, and weren’t. You should have had the chance to beat your bullys, but couldn’t because of school policy and anti-bully culture. Life failed you. You have no confidence. That needs to change. Go look in the mirror. Take a good long look. Do you enjoy seeing the person who stares back? No. We see you the same way you’re seeing you. So you need to change that. Nut up, and go join a gym. Take a boxing class. Get hit in the face. Take it. Again. Again. Hit back. Be the person who’s burried underneith all your insecurities. Fuck those insecurities. You have no room in your life for insecurities. Work out until you hurt. Jelly legs where you’re so tender that walking is hard. Jelly arms. Do it again tomorrow. And the next day. Do it about 4 days a week for 6 hours.

    Be better. Improve yourself. You’re lonely and insecure? Yeah, that’s because women see you being gross and not worth talking to. BE worth talking to. It only gets harder as you get older. You can spend your 20s sleeping around, but you better find somebody by 30. Because after that, it is slim pickings unless you want a girl with like 5 kids by 3 different men but she’s insisting you go bareback. There’s a reason she collects so many checks. You wanna be next?

    Or do you want to avoid that now by being a better you?

    Because this? This is sad.

  • Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.worldtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•Men, how do you deal with the misandry online. Does it affect you mentally?
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    1 year ago

    Oh, I’m ABSOLUTELY in a bubble away from tiktok.

    You know how a broken clock is right twice a day? Well, trump actually got tiktok right the FIRST time he had an opinion on it, in 2016, and surprisingly enough for the right reason.

    It IS a Chinese espionage tool. It always has been. Both against their own citizens, and against other nations userbase.

    I just want to make clear two things.

    1. I’m NOT a trump supporter. He just happened to be right on this one issue in 2016. It’s one of those times where I was like “Wait…really? I’m agreeing with trump??? That can’t be right…no, it checks out. He’s making rational points…are we SURE this is trump??? The orange cheeto man? The grease pizza slut? That guy is…alright. Feels weird agreeing with trump on something…”

    2. He’s since reversed his stance, and gotten his own tiktok once he realized he could game the system. So, suddenly he’s pro-tiktok. Which is somehow better for me personally. I can keep my position, and not feel dirty for being on trumps side. I have spent all of 0 minutes on tiktok.